There are few religious texts of greater interest to modern Christians than the apocalyptic writings of Matthew. And there are few passages more challenging than the eschatological parables in the 25th chapter of that gospel, the most familiar of which is the Parable of the Ten Bridesmaids (Matt. 25:1-13 nrsv):
1Then the kingdom of heaven will be like this. Ten bridesmaids took their lamps and went to meet the bridegroom. 2 Five of them were foolish, and five were wise. 3 When the foolish took their lamps, they took no oil with them; 4 but the wise took flasks of oil with their lamps. 5 As the bridegroom was delayed, all of them became drowsy and slept. 6 But at midnight there was a shout, ‘Look! Here is the bridegroom! Come out to meet him.’ 7 Then all those bridesmaids got up and trimmed their lamps. 8 The foolish said to the wise, ‘Give us some of your oil, for our lamps are going out.’ 9 But the wise replied, ‘No! there will not be enough for you and for us; you had better go to the dealers and buy some for yourselves.’ 10 And while they went to buy it, the bridegroom came, and those who were ready went with him into the wedding banquet; and the door was shut. 11 Later the other bridesmaids came also, saying, ‘Lord, lord, open to us.’ 12 But he replied, ‘Truly I tell you, I do not know you.’ 13 Keep awake therefore, for you know neither the day nor the hour.
Virtually every Christian denomination, including Mormonism, reduces the moral of this story to a few platitudes such as, “be prepared” and “stay alert” because you never know when the Lord will come again. As one scholar put it, this does little more than turn the five wise bridesmaids into Boy Scouts, which begs the question: if that’s all there is to this story, why bother, especially since that message was already conveyed in Chapter 24? And we unwittingly arrive at these simplistic conclusions by drawing inferences from the behavior of the characters that the text does not support. Worst of all, we fail to consider how modern-day revelation about the Plan of Salvation can inform our understanding of this parable.
The setting for this story is ten bridesmaids who have gone out in anticipation of accompanying the bridegroom when he returns with his fiancé after paying the bride-price to his in-laws. Once he has claimed his wife-to-be, they will retire to the home of his family for the wedding festivities, which, by tradition, take place at night, and will not begin until they arrive.
But there is no “they” here; no bride is ever mentioned. This apparent omission ostensibly was done to allegorize the bridegroom as the Messiah, which would be in keeping with the theme of Matthew 24 and 25. This imagery would have resonated with Christ’s audience since it was traditionally employed to depict God as the groom and the people of Israel as the bride, with the Torah standing as the marriage covenant between Jehovah and his people. And, as noted by biblical scholar N. T. Wright, it would have underscored the fact that this parable isn’t just about the “end times.” “Throughout his ministry, Jesus was coming as the promised Messiah to his people.” Once again, the Savior was extending an invitation to the Israelites to join the wedding feast.
Each bridesmaid has brought a lamp to use to help light the way for the wedding processional, but five, aka, the wise ones, carried some extra oil in case the groom was delayed. Sure enough, he is running late—so late, in fact that everyone dozes off.
Now, the scene has been set and the action begins to unfold.
A cry goes out: “The bridegroom is coming; let’s go meet him!” The bridesmaids all awaken, but those who didn’t bring extra oil discover that their lamps are going out. They ask to borrow some from their friends, who refuse to share because they fear running out themselves. The unwise bridesmaids are then advised to go to the market and buy some more. While their errand is successful, they do not return in time to participate in the procession and they are denied admission to the wedding feast.
The oil in this story is symbolic, we are told, of good deeds, righteous living, and/or testimony—commodities that are not shareable. They are our celestial savings account—“go to church, get another drop of oil”—with which we will purchase our ticket to the Kingdom of Heaven. But the text does not support this interpretation and our own teachings argue in favor of a different meaning.
The wise bridesmaids never said they couldn’t share or were incapable of doing so. Rather, they simply didn’t want to. Further, oil is not described as a passive commodity in the New Testament nor is it treated as something to be hoarded. Rather, it is employed in the service of others. Christ’s disciples used it when healing the sick and the Good Samaritan treated the wounds of the robbed traveler with oil. And, most poignant of all, is the anointing of the Savior’s feet by a sinful woman.
But even if we do equate the oil in this parable with each individual’s personal reservoir of good deeds and spiritual strength, in a very real sense these can be shared. For example, those who have died without being baptized can nevertheless become eligible for admission to God’s kingdom if we perform that ordinance and keep that commandment on their behalf. Our good deed becomes their good deed: they are credited with having been baptized because of what we did. Their spiritual strength has been potentially augmented. So has ours. All because we shared.
The parable is silent on the question of whether the prudent bridesmaids should have been generous with their oil. But in that silence we are left to wonder what was going through the minds of these wise virgins when they discovered that half their friends and family had been denied admission? How much joy did they truly derive from the celebration when they saw so many empty seats around the table?
Putting aside, for the moment, the question of whether the five wise ones acted properly when they elected not to share, there is no denying that their fellow bridesmaids were foolish. But not, I believe, for their failure to bring more oil. Perhaps they brought all they had. No, their fatal mistake was something altogether different: they left.
What would have happened if they had simply waited with their flickering and dying lamps? Might not the bridegroom’s disappointment at the condition of their lamps been outweighed by his joy in discovering that their faith was strong enough to sustain them in the darkness until he arrived? That they trusted him, that they didn’t abandon him?
A more accurate translation of the phrase “keep awake” in verse 13, I believe, is “be vigilant,” which means much more than simply not dozing off in church. It implies we should be attentive to what really matters, avoid distraction, and concentrate on the task at hand, which, in the case of all ten bridesmaids, was being present when the bridegroom arrived. What mattered most to the bridegroom was having his friends with him to celebrate this joyous occasion. The oil, by contrast, was a material thing in which he exhibited no interest upon his arrival.
In the final analysis, the salvation of each one of us depends upon the grace of God. He conveys this message in verse five—but we completely miss it—when he notes that all of the bridesmaids, including the wise ones, fell asleep while waiting for him. This is an obvious allusion to the disciples’ inability to “keep awake” in Gethsemane and to Christ’s atonement—his grace—without which all of our good works and oil reserves would be for naught.
The simple truth is that if the bridegroom had been late enough, every single bridesmaid would have burned through her oil. As noted by one biblical scholar, both the wise and the foolish were operating from “the same premise of scarcity and fear.” They didn’t fully trust the love of the bridegroom for his friends.
Sometimes we don’t feel worthy to be in his presence, to approach him in prayer, to come to church, to take the sacrament. And sometimes the “wise” in our midst make us feel uncomfortable because of the way we dress, the beliefs we hold, or the companions we choose. Tellingly, the wise bridesmaids seemed more concerned about the quality of the lighting during the wedding parade than they were about the welfare of their friends when they admonished them to leave and not come back without more oil.
Finally, I do not mean to suggest that our actions do not matter, that we will not be held accountable for the choices we have made. But after all of the apocalyptic declarations and words of warning in Matthew, we come to the final verses of chapter 25 where Jesus casts himself in the role of each of us in our moments of greatest weakness, when we are sick, spiritually or physically, when we are not welcomed by others, when we find ourselves imprisoned by our unrighteous actions. Since he requires each of us to treat those in such circumstances with love and compassion, I am hopeful he will do the same for me.
And if my lamp is flickering at the end, I shall look for solace to the words of Isaiah: “a bruised reed he will not break, and a dimly burning wick he will not extinguish; he will faithfully bring forth justice.” Isaiah 42:3 (NASB).
 Levine, Amy-Jill, Short Stories by Jesus, HarperCollins, 2014, p. 280.
 Wright, N.T., Matthew for Everyone: Part 2, Westminster John Knox Press, 2004, p. 134.
 Marvin J. Ashton, “A Time of Urgency,” General Conference, April 1974.
 Kimball, Spencer W., Faith Precedes the Miracle, Deseret Book Company, 1972, p. 256 “Attendance at sacrament meetings adds oil to our lamps, drop by drop over the years.”
 Luke 7:37-38.
 David Roberts, “The Breaking of the Bridesmaids: Rethinking a Problematic Parable,” Patheos, Nov. 3, 2014.